Letting people love you is sometimes more scary than being able to love them. It means you have to be totally open, humble and vulnerable and be willing to let them see you, feel you just as you are. Warts and all.
All too often we hold back who we are out of fear of getting hurt, exposed or rejected. We keep people at arms length, only letting them see and experience certain depths of who we are. Playing a game, gauging our level of safety, letting those who we trust see more of us than those we don’t.
The irony is that playing this game is what actually hurts us, keeps us separate and feeling alone. How can anyone truly love us if we do not fully “love out” first?
We place expectations and conditions on love which is a falsity as love is unconditional.
Love is an expression, it is a state of being, it is natural.
Just spend time watching a newborn baby and you will notice how they radiate love in all directions. A baby’s love is unmeasured, given freely and without demands.
Love ultimately exposes our unloving ways and this is what is hard to accept; people don’t reject love they actually reject themselves.
We all crave love and connection. We were all once that newborn baby, totally open to love and being loved. Love is not something we have to learn, it is naturally in us waiting patiently for us to return, waiting patiently for us to express unreservedly what is inside with no holds barred.
Its simple:
Unlock your heart, love yourself, let people in, let them love you, let them see you for all you are – warts and all, trust in love and let love be your way.
A delicious breakfast accompaniment. Thank you Rachel!
And probably easier to digest than what’s in the newspaper.
Loved it Rachel – warts and all!
No hiding who I am, thanks Priscila
This is such a beautiful post Rachel. I’m slowly learning to just be me and let people see me without putting on a front and a guard that I’m ‘OK’ or whatever it is, so that they don’t really see me. The more I am just me without judgment or expectation, as you say warts and all, the more I feel the sweetness that is within me starting to express out. At times it is scary, I’m not used to just being me but oh, is it worth it. All the searching, frustration and discontentment comes from me not just being who I am, and it is the sweetest joy to let who I am be and be seen. Delightful glory.
So crazy to hide our sweetness when it is so joyful and delightful to share.
‘Love is not something we have to learn, it is naturally in us waiting patiently for us to return, waiting patiently for us to express unreservedly what is inside with no holds barred.’ LOVE this.
We are it. We know it. All we have to do is accept it is there and live it…..How joyous is that?
Simple, we come from love, we are love, so be love
beautiful Rachel, thank you for such simple and oh so wise words.