I have been considering what type of female role models I grew up with and how that shaped my life growing up.
I realised that nearly all the women around me when I was a girl appeared to be weak, pathetic, needy and subservient and dependent upon their husbands. I saw that as a girl and decided I didn’t want to grow up to be a woman if that was what being a woman meant.
So in reaction to that, I carved out a life so I would be strong and tough, independent successful, have a career and not need to rely on anyone for support. I also decided from a young age that I didn’t want to have kids or get married as it would mean doing everything for your family, putting yourself last and giving up on your dreams.
I became very hard and driven, cold, aloof, aggressive and more “male” in my ways and in fact lost the gentle, soft, tender and naturally caring little girl I was.
What kind of role model for girls and women had I become?
Through the work of Universal Medicine and its esoteric modalities for women and Natalie Benhayon’s women’s groups I now understand that my role models were women choosing to be like the women they had grown up with and to make the best of what society had to offer them, as back then a woman’s place was in the home. The perceived neediness and weaknesses I witnessed as a child were not really who or what a woman is.
A true woman is actually incredibly strong and powerful but this comes from being gentle, fragile, nurturing and feminine, and from the woman connecting to her body and listening to the messages it is constantly sending.
By listening to my own body I have been able to reconnect to that tender, sweet, gentle little girl that I was and allow her to start to blossom into a woman – a woman who is strong and powerful not by being hard or aggressive but from her being who she naturally is.
Imagine what kind of role models we could be if we let the real woman shine in all her strength, fragility, love and glory.