Perseverance

Permanence, perseverance and persistence in spite of all obstacles, discouragements, and impossibilities: It is this, that in all things distinguishes the strong soul from the weak.
Thomas Carlyle

There have been many times in my life when I have felt like quitting, giving up or throwing in the towel. But out of adversity has always come opportunity with the little voice inside me saying “you can do it”, “you can make it”, “you already know how to handle this”, “you are strong – never give up”. In this way I battled through life with my “I’ll show them” mentality, from one success to another like great grades at school, going to university, becoming a professional, opening my own business and so on.

However somewhere along the way I had subtly quit, given up and thrown in the towel. As in fighting my way through life I had given up on tenderness, quit being gentle and thrown in the towel on love.

What I had achieved in my life I had done at the expense of myself and my true nature. I had become hardened to the World with a heart so shut down that I kept people out and protected myself from hurt. I was fiercely independent and could do it all myself. In fact it was my job to do it and take it all on, no need for support, assistance or help.

Then slowly, slowly life began to change…..

8 years ago I met an incredible man, a man so full of love, tenderness and truth that I was dumbfounded. In that moment I fell in love; I fell in love with myself. I began to feel that same love, tenderness and truth start to well up in me like a match being held to the fire. As my heart filled with warmth, I gently wept remembering how much I missed that all too familiar if not all too distant feeling.

Over the ensuing years I chose to live in a way that fostered the ability to be more tender, gentle and loving, to connect to my soul and live from the impulses of my heart. Now this hasn’t always been easy and has brought up a lot of old emotional issues and unresolved hurts that I have needed to deal with and let go. I have also had to look at my part in what has happened to me in my life and take responsibility for my choices, actions and words.

Recently this incredible, inspiring man of love has come under heavy criticism and media interest as it seems living more lovingly, respectfully and caringly are something to be sneered and jeered at because they go against the trend of the way humanity is living today. As part of that I have been heavily caught in the crossfire for my support for this man and his organisation.

Yet not once has my resolve wavered, not once have I felt like quitting, throwing in the towel or giving up on what I know in my heart to be true. And in this I have found the most incredible support and strength to preserver, step up and persist despite the seeming obstacles and resistance trying to stand in my way.

My love is steady, my soul is strong, I know who I am and what my purpose is this life. And boy oh boy does that make for a powerful, unstoppable combination.

I Say “NO!” But Not Always

Recently I have found myself speaking up more and more and saying “NO!” to the things I will no longer tolerate in life. Such as lies, corruption, injustice, bullying, abuse of women, misogyny, violence, the abuse of power and position and so on.

Whilst these issues are very obvious and would cause many people to say “NO!” I have also found myself saying “NO!”to the more subtle things in life.

As I have become more aware of my own tenderness and exquisite beauty I realise that I can no longer afford to let the little things slip because if I do I am tolerating abuse and disharmony on a small scale which then feeds and impacts on those in the grander scheme of life.
The way we want the world around us to be has to start with our own inner environment which for me began with the choice to be more gentle, caring and self loving with myself and then of others.

Through this I have seen that for me to be me there are some things I will never say no to:

I will never say no to honouring myself
I will never say no to speaking the truth
I will never say no to how I feel inside
I will never say no to being all of who I am

AND most of all ……

I will NEVER say NO to LOVE.

Define Yourself – Be Who You Naturally Are

Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life; define yourself.

Harvey Fierstein

My whole life I recall being told: be quiet, stop talking, don’t shout out the answers, you can’t say that, keep your trap shut, shush, be silent, pipe down, don’t speak out of turn and hold your tongue along with a multitude of other colloquialisms to stop me from verbally expressing myself.

As a young child I was quite the little chatter-box, I would talk and talk and talk and make up little songs. I would say what I felt in the way that I felt it even if that meant saying something out of turn or telling you I didn’t like you. Even if it meant I might get into trouble.

I can recall an aunt and uncle visiting and “my mother saying are you going to kiss uncle so and so goodbye” and me telling her ” No! I wasn’t because he felt like a mean man”. Well you can imagine how that went down.

I can recall telling my teacher ” when you were in you life before this one you had a baby but it died and you were very sad”. She was pretty shocked and asked my parents to come in to have a chat.

I remember many occasions when I spoke of the “people” who would visit my room at night or the “angels” who came and sang with me, only to be told or overhear the adults say that I had a very over active imagination or worse that I was telling lies.

One time, when I was about 4, I told my mother very calmly “you say you love me but you don’t really” very matter of factly like I had commented on the weather or what colour dress she was wearing. She attempted to laugh it off and told me not to be so silly but I could feel it was true. But in that moment I also felt her sadness and her hurt. The hurt she carried from her parents not truly loving her. I was able to feel the lost little girl in her that was crying out to be adored for who she was in the way I wanted her to adore me for all of who I was.

Looking back it was in that moment that I realised that sometimes it didn’t do to speak your mind as people’s feelings got hurt or they reacted to what was said. It pained me to feel their sadness, anger, devastation or loss. It pained me so much that not only did I start to hold back my natural way of expression but I began to withdraw into myself and away from other people.

I was sensitive to the vibe that a person gave off to such an extent that I was able to gauge with whom I could be open and with whom I needed to be guarded. I began to shut myself down like a dimmer switch to suit the mood and adjust to the people around me so they could feel comfortable and I needn’t feel their pain.

I gradually stopped saying what I felt and started saying what I felt others wanted to hear. I compromised my truth and who I was in a desperate attempt not to rock the boat, trigger a reaction or cause offense. I became quieter and quieter but inside it was agony like a pressure was building and I was going to explode.

And explode I did …. in fits of rage and fury, angry at the World for not being “right”, devastated by the emotions I was so intensely aware of, furious at a society that asks us to be nice and good and polite instead of loving and true. Incensed at a World that would not let me be me.

The more I swallowed my words down the more pain I had inside, I felt lost, hopeless, isolated, misunderstood and incredibly lonely. But words are not are the only expression the way my body moved and how I did things altered, there was no tenderness, delicacy or gentleness in my actions. I was nothing like the carefree young child who used to frolic in the long grass with the angels.

Recently I learnt I no longer needed to be this way and through a series of personal development workshops and healing sessions and the choice to live more honestly and loving of who I am I have been able to find my voice again and start to live from who I am inside.

I now trust my feelings and express my truth both with my voice and the way my body is and moves.

Yes occasionally the truth appears to hurt but being silenced by a World that bullies us to be something or someone we are not hurts us so much more.

Alcohol at schools?

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Please help me to gather research by having your say on this poll as this will be used as supporting evidence for when I approach the local school. I feel very strongly that it is wrong to allow or serve alcohol at school events where there are children present.

Alcohol and children do not mix.

Don’t Let Your Fire Go Out

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Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark, in the hopeless swamps of the approximate, the not-quite, the not-yet, the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish, in lonely frustration for the life you deserved, but have never been able to reach. Check your road and the nature of your battle.The world you desired can be won. It exists, it is real, it is possible, it is yours.

Ayn Rand


Alcohol and School Events A Dangerous Cocktail

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Should alcohol be served at primary school events?

At many school fetes these days you will often find a well frequented bar area and stalls raffling bottles of wine with families being asked to contribute by making a donation of one bottle per family. School concerts serve alcohol, school trivia nights are fuelled by cheese and biscuits so that more parents will attend and have a good time.

The bar is seen as a way to generate revenue, get more parents to attend functions and once there to encourage them to stay longer and part with more cash.

But is combing adults drinking with children as young as 5 on school grounds sending mixed messages to our kids?

Personally I find this trend quite disturbing and from doing some background research it appears I am not the only one.

Drinking at discos, fetes, events and sports games on school grounds is concerning a number of parents, who are turning to the Australian Drug Foundation for help. Concerned parents who object to adults being allowed to drink at school events, particularly when young children are present are emailing the ADF to raise awareness of this issue.

The focus of children’s events on school grounds should be the children not alcohol. On one hand adults complain about underage drinking, yet we show children we need a drink when we attend children’s functions at school. If we are serious about reducing pressure on young people to drink, we have to set an example. We have to show our children we can enjoy ourselves without it. Drinking on school grounds undermines the alcohol education programs for young people in schools and sets the wrong tone.

Can you imagine a parent turning up to collect their child after school, glass of wine in hand? There would be a public outcry. But by allowing alcohol at school events we are condoning this exact behaviour that would not be tolerated during normal school hours.

Children are exposed to so much now from earlier and earlier ages, they see enough of adults drinking on a daily basis on TV, at home and even at the local playground where parents crank up the BBQ and crack open a beer while they push their child on the swings.
What sort of role models are we presenting to these impressionable minds?

Research shows it’s best for young people to avoid drinking until 18. To give our young people the best possible start in life, we need to take a look at our own drinking and start setting the example.
Surely our schools should be kept alcohol free environments and be the place that sets the example to our children that we do not need alcohol to socialise and enjoy ourselves.

What do you think? Should alcohol be served at Primary School events?

Should we be calling for a total ban on alcohol at primary school functions?

I for one have been left shaken and stirred.

When It Gets Personal

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Cyber-bullying: My Personal Experience

Recently I have witnessed and experienced the effects of cyber-bullying, trolling, online vitriol and hate speak on a personal level. I have have watched some close friends get misrepresented, bad-mouthed, criticised, derided, smeared, intimidated and defamed online and in the National mainstream media. I have become caught up in this by association because I have chosen over the years to attend presentations and workshops to assist with my personal development, spiritual growth and self-healing.

Because I have chosen to attend healing courses run by Universal Medicine my reputation, my good name and character and my professional integrity have been and are being dragged through the mud.

I have been personally labelled a follower in the newspaper, told I am a member of a cult and become a victim of cyber-bullying, hate speak, trolling and online defamation. I have been accused of being part of a recruitment cartel for a cult and doing this under my professional status. These people do not know me and are making wild accusations and assumptions about me that are disturbing and designed to harm my professional status.

All of these allegations could not be further from the truth and I am appalled and outraged that such lies, rumours and gossip mongering has been allowed to happen not only to me but to Universal Medicine and all those associated with them.

There are web forums and blog sites actively targeting, defaming and attempting to discredit and ruin the reputation of myself, other health care professionals, doctors, dentists and businesses simply because people choose of their free will to attend workshops, listen to an audio presentation or read a book. These forums and sites are run by a small number of people who appear to be disgruntled with what Universal Medicine presents and the choices people are making to live more lovingly.

These people (who I may or may not know) are acting as cowards and bullies hiding behind anonymity, fake names and pseudonyms because perhaps deep down they know what they are doing is immoral, outrageous and wrong.

Cyber-bullies get away with it because the law and Government policy has not caught up to where society is at. They get away with it under the dark veil of not having to provide proper verification of their identity when setting up sites and thus are difficult to trace and bring to task.

It is disgraceful that this style of bullying, name calling and wild accusations can and are allowed to happen; as if it were going on in a school or work place it simply would not be tolerated. There is something dramatically wrong with the policies and laws of this land when they are set up to protect an anonymous abuser over an upstanding, innocent, professional member of society. The status quo needs to change and quickly.