If you look up the definition of community what stands out for me is this line

a group of people living in the same place or having a particular characteristic in common”

It is interesting, how we have taken what is so obviously a Universal all-encompassing meaning and used it to create division and separation based on geography, location, likes and dislikes, shared ideals and beliefs, culture, nationality, level of education, gender, age, social and educational background.

If we were to truly look at this definition and feel it in its wholeness we could never do what the above examples clearly demonstrate, which is to apply reductionism to break community into factions that keep us at arms length based on our small picture outer differences rather than our true commonalities.

For me when I read the definition of community and feel it from what I have lived before, my understanding of community is:

Group of people = Humanity
Living in the same place = Earth
Particular characteristic in common = we are Love, we are all Sons of God

So for me community goes beyond the people who I come into contact with or choose to spend and share time with. Community is all-inclusive and is based on the principles of Brotherhood, Oneness and Equality knowing we are one community living in the same place, sharing the same characteristics.


You Time

Over the holiday season make sure that you set aside some ‘You’ time to do the following…

  1. Reflect on 2013 and take note of a) what did you accomplish, b) what did you learn, c) what can you be grateful for?
  2. Review your VALUES – what matters most to you. Sometimes this can be what you would regret most if you lost it…
  3. Set goals for 2014 based on fulfilling your ‘values’ – write them down and refer to them through the year.
  4. Take some time to nurture relationships, yourself, your body and your soul.


Discover Your Home

This is from a book of teachings that I like to read regularly. I felt it followed on nicely from my last post so I would like to share it with you here.

If you surrender to your heart
You will find the esoteric connection
Which binds us all as one.
Here you will discover the home
You have walked a thousand paths to find.
Serge Benhayon

Making House Calls

Today I went to visit a friend at her house for the first time. So what? No big deal. Not exactly headline making news I know but it for me it was a whole new experience.

In the past going to someone’s house filled me with anxiety, made me nervous and left me feeling awkward and on edge. And even though they had invited me to make myself at home, I felt like I was intruding into their privacy and could never quite relax and be at ease.

The visit would be so superficial with them trying too hard to be the perfect host and to make witty, engaging conversation and then me doing the same in return so as to be the polite guest. Then there were those dreaded and uncomfortable silences that needed to be filled with something, anything! Just keep talking, for God’s sake think of something to say! Thankfully there was the CD collection, a random book or a framed picture or photograph that would come to the rescue and save the day. Phew! Painful gap in conversation and awkward moment averted.

Funny how we find silence or a break in a conversation so desperately difficult to deal with.
Why is that?

Anyway, back to my visit today…..

What was so different that I wanted to share it with you?
Well, I was greeted by a warm smile and an open heart. Hugged gently, told I was gorgeous and connected to by a friend, who in all honesty up until today I actually didn’t know that well. Not only was I welcomed into her home but into her life and her family. But it went deeper than that she also opened herself up to me and let me in with no barriers allowing me to see and feel all of who she is. I could feel that she is just like me and in return was able to do the same and let the real me out. In that moment we connected deeply and it didn’t matter if there was nothing to say as actually nothing needed to be said.

How refreshing to be with someone and them not need you to be or act in a certain way. How refreshing to be with someone and not feel like you have to entertain them.
How refreshing to be with someone and simply know that you are equal and in that feel totally at home in your own skin.

In that brief 3 hour visit I learnt more about my new friend than I have about people I have known for more than 20 years. The need for small talk dissolved and we were able to go to a level of honesty that takes most friendships many years to reach.

This just goes to show that when we open our hearts to each other and let go the superficial front we put on, magic truly happens.

You Are Here for a Reason

Do you catch yourself wondering if there is more to life than this?
Do you ask yourself:
Why am I here?
What is my purpose?
What is it that I am here to do?

Surely there has to be more to life than just eat, sleep, work, have kids and then puff you’re gone…..

You were born for a reason.
You are here for a reason.
You are here for a grander purpose than just to eat, sleep, work, have kids and die.

But what is that purpose? What are you here for?

You are here to make a difference.
You are here to remember who you are.
You are here to shine your light.
You are here to leave an imprint in the World.
You are here to inspire others to know they have a purpose.

You were born unique, there is no one like you in this World who can offer what you have to give. You were blessed with a set of gifts that are yours and yours alone. You are here to share those gifts and use them to make a contribution to society. No matter how big or small.

There is no one like you in this world. You are unique, gifted, and special. Never underestimate you and the ripple effect that you have in people’s lives.

Your purpose is to learn who you are, what gifts you have and how best to bring those out into the World. You are here to be yourself, to love, to connect and let yourself shine.

You are here for a reason.
You are here to be YOU.
That is your purpose.

Resolving and Reflecting for The New Year

The New Year is rapidly approaching and like many of you at this time I was sat recently contemplating what I’d like to achieve or change in my life.

The past 6 months have been particularly challenging in many ways but out of adversity has come numerous positives. I have a renewed passion and direction for my business, have unveiled hidden skills that I never knew I had and am branching out into new avenues and ventures.

New people have come into my life who have touched my heart with their generosity, commitment and humour and old friends have stood with me every step of the way.
I have become even closer to my partner and my son and have learnt how strong and resilient I am, no matter what.

I want to take this opportunity to thank my family and my friends for their enormous support in what could have been a very difficult time. Your love keeps me strong.

In reflection I can see how much I have to be grateful for and have really come to appreciate what life has to offer – the simple smile of stranger as we pass in the street, a flower coming into bloom, clouds in the sky, a sunset, butterflies, the laughter of children, real friends and the wonder of human life and all the steps we take to find our purpose and know who we are.

I have no resolutions as such for my year to come other than to build on the foundations of love, trust, truth and friendship that I am always developing in my heart.

So instead of resolutions here are my wishes for 2013

Tone my body and build some muscles back
Join a gym and perhaps go more than once
Spend more quality time with my family
Become a better boss, lead by example and mentor more
Say what I’m feeling rather than expecting people to read my mind
Nurture myself
Work on eating only when I am truly hungry
Be deeply caring of myself and others
Work smarter
Do more writing
Start podcasts
Relax, take things slower, pause for breath and savour the moment
Make new connections and cherish the ones I already have
Accept myself for who I am despite my faults and flaws
Marvel at the amazingness of the untapped potential that lies deep inside us all just waiting to burst out.

Oh and of course, mustn’t forget this one – have lots of fun along the way!

Whatever your wishes, dreams, hopes and resolutions for the future; here’s to a year full of wonder, love, beauty, friendship and magic for you all.

Slow Down


It seems that life these days is more busy, hectic and frenetic. Jam packed full of things to do, people to see, emails to read, events to attend and somewhere in all that we have to fit in work, the kids, relationships and sleep.
Life seems to be all rush, rush, hurrying from one thing to another.
The year whizzes by faster and faster. No sooner has Easter begun before suddenly Christmas rolls around again.

Is time actually going faster or are we living in a way that makes it appear so?

Have we fallen for the need to be on the go, doing, achieving in the name of productivity, satisfaction, excitement and happiness?

Constantly feeling you don’t have enough time speeds up your body clock, increasing your heart rate and over stimulating your nervous system. This creates the illusion that you’re doing things faster when in reality it’s only you that has sped up.

Time dictates to you rather than you dictating to time.

Stop, pause, take a breath, reconnect, have a time out, take a moment. Let the body return to its natural rhythm. Slow down.

Do things with connection and presence. Live moment to moment and let each moment complete.

Give it a try and join the “slow life movement”.