Complexity It’s Simple Stupid!

OMG do you find yourself going down the rabbit hole of complexity, in an endless tail chase wondering why life is so hard and complicated. For example: That phone answering system that wants you to say yes, input your phone number, say what department you want, then is that support, sales, technical, billing etc only to get put through to the wrong place or be told ‘I’m sorry I don’t recognise what you said’ and tells you to go to the website. But then their website is so hard to navigate, you flick form one page to the next and you can’t find what you need, you use the search function still blank and just when you think you’ve cracked it it wants your 12 digit account number and the password that you were sent that was some improbable form of physics equation for defining the laws of quantum relativity. Its enough to send you insane!

I’m laughing now but we seriously nearly had a full blown IT tantrum on our hands as tried to complete a simple (or so I thought) task. But it made me wonder, since when did we make life so complex? What happened to the days where you could pick up the phone and speak directly to a human being or find out the answers you needed in a few easy steps.

Yes technology is great and it has opened up vast avenues of communication, knowledge and our ability to do things we never dreamed of but when did it replace common sense and the human touch? When did we let systems and automation replace connection and support, and our desire to serve our customers for example or to have a proper chat with our friends? How many times do you find yourself in the the tennis rally of back and forth texting or emails to decide afterwards ‘well that would have been simpler to just call and have a chat’!

Complexity seems to be a ploy that makes us look evolved and advanced because we have superior technology when in fact we should be using it to make things simpler. Yet we don’t need technology to make life complex – just look at the way politics, the education systems or some businesses are run and operated! Lots of red tape, complex systems and that’s not my department that offends people and reduces real interaction and autonomy when it comes to applying what is best for the people we serve.

Its time to go back and make life simple and user friendly and those steps begin with each of us – where can we simplify our own life, relationships and ways of doing things because at the end of the day its in the simple things in life that we derive the greatest joy.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Learning New Skills – Universal Medicine Exposed

New Talents Exposed.

11 years ago when I started my business Evolve Dental Healing in Kenmore I could barely send an email and with some concentration managed to find my way around the dental software required to keep patient notes and charts up to date.

Then when my website started to grow I needed to learn how to add posts, blogs and articles so I slowly taught myself how to this. I realised Google was my friend as there was a wealth of how to’s at my finger tips.

2012 saw me branch out into social media where I have taught myself the skills needed to post over several platforms, automate my news feeds and to curate information. Skills that I now pass on to others in the form of a very simple approach to social media and its purpose.

Expanding on that I have taught myself to use wordpress to blog, use dropbox, skype, fuze and more to be able to work on projects, edit, write and produce for websites, magazines, blogs etc.

My most recent amazement has been my foray into website design and building via Weebly, which although its a simple enough platform for a novice like me was a steep learning curve but something I realised I have a natural ability and eye for detail for.

So from being a humble tooth drilling technophobe I am now a master (well almost) web designer. And why? Well I’ve been working with an incredible and dedicated team to be able to showcase and celebrate an amazing group of people who over the past 10+ years have become my great friends.

So here it is Universal Medicine Exposed

Showcasing and Celebrating the Students of Universal Medicine
Universal Medicine Exposed provides an in-depth up close and personal insight into the lives of the people who call themselves students of Universal Medicine and The Way of The Livingness.
We call ourselves ‘The Student Body’ because we all
are students of Life – students of our own Life and Evolution
It showcases and celebrates the lives of individuals who have been inspired by the life and presentations of Serge Benhayon to make simple but profound changes to their own lives, which has improved their self-awareness, health, relationships and wellbeing immeasurably.
And it is through these changes that I have made to my own life that I am who I am and where I am today.

 

Community

If you look up the definition of community what stands out for me is this line

a group of people living in the same place or having a particular characteristic in common”

It is interesting, how we have taken what is so obviously a Universal all-encompassing meaning and used it to create division and separation based on geography, location, likes and dislikes, shared ideals and beliefs, culture, nationality, level of education, gender, age, social and educational background.

If we were to truly look at this definition and feel it in its wholeness we could never do what the above examples clearly demonstrate, which is to apply reductionism to break community into factions that keep us at arms length based on our small picture outer differences rather than our true commonalities.

For me when I read the definition of community and feel it from what I have lived before, my understanding of community is:

Group of people = Humanity
Living in the same place = Earth
Particular characteristic in common = we are Love, we are all Sons of God

So for me community goes beyond the people who I come into contact with or choose to spend and share time with. Community is all-inclusive and is based on the principles of Brotherhood, Oneness and Equality knowing we are one community living in the same place, sharing the same characteristics.

Who is Hurting Who?

Being in the World can be harsh and challenging, we have all been hurt by someone yet we behave and react like we have been hurt by everyone.

What do I mean by that? Growing up we experience moments and situations in life that are unpleasant and as we are naturally sensitive beings designed to live in harmony with one another this hurts us. It could be that Mom looked at you in a way that wasn’t full of love and adoration, your sibling bullied you, a friend lied or let you down and so forth and hence we get hurt. So to avoid being hurt again we put up defences, guards and walls to keep people at bay or project aggression, being hard and tough so it looks like we will attack first so don’t you dare go there. We must protect ourselves from hurt at any cost. But instead of being this way with the people who we perceived hurt us we are protective and guarded with everybody – just incase.

But what if this protection we think we have is an illusion and that by being anything other than trusting, loving and open we are the ones already hurting ourselves as we are going against our Divine inner nature. What if being hardened and aggressive is a self-perpetuating hurt that we are living in almost every moment of everyday. . .Ouch!

This for me is a very poignant point and a great reminder when I realise I am steeling myself for a meeting, phone call or just going out into the world that the greatest protection I have is to be all of the love that I am. To remind myself I can’t hold the whole world and all of humanity to ransom for a handful of people in my life that hurt me because I needed them to be a certain way, to love me when they couldn’t and to give me what I wasn’t giving myself which was permission to be loving, delicate, tender and understanding.


“The moment you harden to protect yourself from being hurt, your next move is in disregard … you are then hurting yourself.”

~ Esoteric Teachings & Revelations – by Serge Benhayon
Pg. 469

So at the end of the day who really is hurting who?

Universal Medicine Retreat Vietnam

March 2016 and I find myself in Vietnam for another consecutive year attending the Universal Medicine Retreat hosted by Serge Benhayon and Natalie Benhayon. This retreat is a 5 day gift that I receive every year along with around 200 students of The Ancient Wisdom.

Now when most of us think about health retreats we have images of hours of yoga, meditations, clean food, massage and spas – well at least I did anyway. However, the retreats by Universal Medicine turn this concept on their head. These retreats are designed to deepen our understanding of who we are and our place not only in life but the whole grand scheme of things in the Universe. Through presentations and workshops which are both challenging, exposing and at the same time enlightening we get to explore the hinderances and games that we play to not live in full knowing that we are more than flesh and blood and come from Divinity.

The days start at 5am through to 6.30pm and are punctuated by the most delicious food served overlooking the resort gardens, pool and river, time for walks and esoteric yoga twice a day – which is not all standing on your head, poses or strange breathing exercises but a time to connect to the body and the quality we have within.

Serge Benhayon holds no punches during these retreats where he presents how he lives and his deep wisdom and connection to the intelligence of the Universe – so as to reawaken us to the fact that we too are Divine beings living in a way where we have forgotten and repressed who we are to fit in to a societal norm that is anything but normal to the way we are to truly be.

These retreats are transformational and life changing in a way that grows and develops by ones own commitment to self develop, explore and put into place a Way of Livingness that supports you to be more deeply connected to and able to live who you are.

So why many of my friends ask do I keep coming back year after year? Well the answer to that is there is a deeper level of me to go to, more to understand about myself and my place in the world and a deeper quality of love and Divinity to evolve to. Attending these retreats support me and my family to do just that through the inspiration of Serge Benhayon, his family, my friends and all the students of Universal Medicine. And to put it quite simply its also a lot of fun!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Life Changed When I Met Serge Benhayon

Throughout my life I have always felt that things didn’t quite add up, that there had to be more to it than you are born, you live, you die and that’s it. It seems to me to be a whole lot of effort to put in if that’s all there is.

As a young child I felt very connected to all that was around me, sensitive to what I felt or sensed and knew there was more than only that which I could tangibly touch or experience with my other senses. Life seemed so much grander and more expansive and I loved the feeling of being a part of it all.

Growing older it was like I turned down this ability, as often the harshness of the world was too much to bear and for me it was easier to dull it down with food, sport, studying and being more in my thoughts and less in my feelings. This coping mechanism served me well up to a point, even though I was aware that it wasn’t the answer I invested heavily in it so as to not acknowledge that I was a delicate and fragile soul who knew there was more than meets the eye. In fact I became very good at pretending that life was just what my five senses and my intellect told me, yet the angst and tension of not living what was naturally there as a child gnawed away at me like a termite with a voracious appetite munching through wood.

All the while the tension would surface reminding me that I was so much more than this automaton I had created. To achieve this I would push and drive myself harder at work and in sport, would eat massive volumes of food and drink coffee and alcohol like it was going out of fashion. Yet as time went on it seemed there was nothing I could do to stop that feeling that something wasn’t right, something was missing.

I started to explore this feeling and in this began my quest for answers, for something that would bring relief . . . But everything I tried from yoga to meditation, self-help books and so forth didn’t touch the sides and just left me feeling more lost and furious that the world wasn’t right.

Everything changed when I met Serge Benhayon the founder of Universal Medicine in 2004 at a workshop where he presented about life being all about energy, that we are all more than physical beings and that we are in fact innately Divine. He spoke of things that I knew to be true yet couldn’t quite grasp as first with my mind, but what I felt in my body resonated so strongly I simply had to admit that this was it – And that I had known this all along, that the termite-like gnawing angst was simply a reminder that I wasn’t living true to what I knew.

Through working with Serge Benhayon I have been able to redevelop more of how I was as a child, honouring that I feel very connected to all that is around me, am sensitive to what I feel or sense and know there is more than only that which I can tangibly touch or experience with my other senses.

 Life is so much grander and more expansive and I love the feeling of being a part of it all.

 

What Did We Really Learn at Uni?

When I graduated dental school, I should have been fresh faced, bright eyed, and full of enthusiasm and optimism about my future, instead I was jaded, exhausted, turned off from learning and in debt up to my eyeballs. Despite the fact that I needed to be earning some cash I decided to take a couple of months break before looking for work as I was so worn out after the pressures of over 5 years of intense study that is required getting a dental degree.

Its sad to look back and see myself so flat when this should have been a pinnacle of achievement, after all I had wanted to be a dentist since I was 13 years old and here I was fulfilling my dream, yet I could only feel relieved that I had made it through and that Uni was now behind me.

When I started my degree I was just 18, healthy, fit, and full of life. I would describe myself as happy-go-lucky and fairly at ease with life, I didn’t smoke, would have the occasional drink, ate well and didn’t really like coffee and generally took good care of myself. By the end of my first term at dental school, however, I was already struggling to cope with the volume of learning, the constant exams, the competitive nature of my fellow students and living away from home fending for myself while trying to manage a meagre budget. My health was starting to suffer, I was tired and stressed, eating on the run and drinking way too much coffee and alcohol, my body was breaking out in boils and I seemed to have a constant cold.

The pressure was relentless, exams every 6 weeks that you had to pass or you were gone. More learning than there seemed hours in the day and then from second year patients to see and treat which brought a whole new level of responsibility to deal with. Add to that only 6 weeks holiday a year (no luxury of long University breaks for us medical and dental students) and the never-ending battle to complete the required number of procedures before the end of 5th year so that you would be allowed to go on to take your final exams and you had a recipe for disaster.

The only way I could cope was to push myself beyond my limits, drinking excessive coffee during the day and alcohol at night to “manage” my stress levels and unwind after a tough day. Tired, I would find myself eating doughnuts at my breaks (the ladies at the dental school coffee bar would even put my doughnut supply to one side so as not run out when I came for a coffee – that’s how bad it had gotten!) and a family pack of biscuits after dinner while I did a few hours study before going the pub and drinking myself to oblivion so I could get some sleep and do it all again the next day.

If you complained about the intensity, you were told to suck it up, as if you couldn’t cope here you would never make it in the real world. And so was the attitude of the teaching staff, not really supportive or offering a way in which to better deal with the requirements of the course or come to think of it life beyond it.

It comes then as no surprise then that upon graduation many dentists and doctors continue on in the same vein, pushing themselves hard to complete their workload of patients and administrative tasks, competing with their colleagues instead of reaching out for support, advice and guidance, coping with stress and exhaustion with caffeine and alcohol and neglecting themselves and their own health. And sadly we are somehow expected to be super-human and be able to deal with all this as we have the cursory title Doctor before our names.

But what gets forgotten and overlooked is that first and foremost we are people, many of us very sensitive and deeply caring individuals, who also need support and nurturing and to be shown how we can not only deliver what we need for our patients but most crucially also for ourselves. For if we don’t truly know how to care for ourselves and maintain that happy-go-lucky fresh faced enthusiasm and love of what we do and the people we are supposedly caring for then what quality of service are we truly offering? What type of role model do we become when our words are empty, tainted by the do as I say not as I do energy that comes from delivering words that are not lived and shown by example, after-all who is going to take advice from an overweight worn out doctor, that would be like getting financial advice from a bankrupt.

Sure, there are many Universities and continuing education courses on offer now that provide teachings in self care, espousing the importance of looking after our wellbeing and whilst this is a welcome step in the right direction I can but only wonder if it goes far enough – are we simply putting a Band-Aid over a wound rather than preventing the wound from developing in the first place.

The fault here lies not in the Universities, the course curriculums, or even, that as doctors people don’t always see us as people, but that life and our education system do not equip us to know how to genuinely care for ourselves on a deeper level. A level that supports us to connect to ourselves and know who we are, to be able to value and care for ourselves naturally and lovingly so and thus live in a way that provides a quality of vitality and energy that supports us to be less affected by life.