There are days when we are full of vitality where we feel amazing and as if we could do anything and others when we feel tired or flat and in need of some downtime. Days where we wish we could lessen the workload, take a break or even have the day off. Oh wouldn’t it be lovely to be able to say I’m not going to work today I’m feeling in need of a rest!

Yet with the pressure of modern life and the responsibility to be at our job, take care of our family etc just dropping everything and taking a day off is not always practical or sensible. But can we be at work or take care of those responsibilities and still respect that we do actually need to take it easier that day?

The days when we wake up tired are the days to prioritise what we need to get done and what we can drop or leave for another day. It’s the day to put off those things that can wait or are purely distractions, time wasters and energy stealers. It is also a day to take the very best care of yourself with how you do things and how you eat.

When you’re feeling run down ask yourself:
Do I really need to spend an hour on social media?
Can those emails wait?
Do I really need to hammer myself with a run or by going hard at the gym?
What can I delegate?
Who can I ask for help and support?
Do I need to make a complicated meal when something simple like an omelette or soup would do?
Would eating fresh rather than processed foods be kinder to my body and energy levels?

Some mornings when I wake up I don’t always feel 100%.
When this happens I look back at how I have been working and living the day and days before to see where I may have pushed too hard, rushed or took on more than I can manage. I check to see where I didn’t give myself what I needed to recover from a heavy work schedule or stress. I also reflect on the food I ate and how I was when I went to bed. In this way I can see how I’ve been living, what has happened and how I have or haven’t supported myself to feel my best or get the good nights sleep I need to be firing on all cylinders.

On these days I take on less, delegate more and postpone what I can to another day. I try not to rush and focus on one thing at a time. I choose food that is easy to digest and gentle on my stomach. I take a nap or rest at lunch time rather than chatting or being on my computer. And most importantly for me, I have a quiet night and go to bed early and as rested as I can.

Often all we need is to acknowledge we are tired and give ourselves permission to take it easier where we can. Why be on the go 24/7 when perhaps 24/6 is the way to go?

Give yourself one day a week where you take it easy, get back to basics and allow yourself the space to just be.

Making House Calls

Today I went to visit a friend at her house for the first time. So what? No big deal. Not exactly headline making news I know but it for me it was a whole new experience.

In the past going to someone’s house filled me with anxiety, made me nervous and left me feeling awkward and on edge. And even though they had invited me to make myself at home, I felt like I was intruding into their privacy and could never quite relax and be at ease.

The visit would be so superficial with them trying too hard to be the perfect host and to make witty, engaging conversation and then me doing the same in return so as to be the polite guest. Then there were those dreaded and uncomfortable silences that needed to be filled with something, anything! Just keep talking, for God’s sake think of something to say! Thankfully there was the CD collection, a random book or a framed picture or photograph that would come to the rescue and save the day. Phew! Painful gap in conversation and awkward moment averted.

Funny how we find silence or a break in a conversation so desperately difficult to deal with.
Why is that?

Anyway, back to my visit today…..

What was so different that I wanted to share it with you?
Well, I was greeted by a warm smile and an open heart. Hugged gently, told I was gorgeous and connected to by a friend, who in all honesty up until today I actually didn’t know that well. Not only was I welcomed into her home but into her life and her family. But it went deeper than that she also opened herself up to me and let me in with no barriers allowing me to see and feel all of who she is. I could feel that she is just like me and in return was able to do the same and let the real me out. In that moment we connected deeply and it didn’t matter if there was nothing to say as actually nothing needed to be said.

How refreshing to be with someone and them not need you to be or act in a certain way. How refreshing to be with someone and not feel like you have to entertain them.
How refreshing to be with someone and simply know that you are equal and in that feel totally at home in your own skin.

In that brief 3 hour visit I learnt more about my new friend than I have about people I have known for more than 20 years. The need for small talk dissolved and we were able to go to a level of honesty that takes most friendships many years to reach.

This just goes to show that when we open our hearts to each other and let go the superficial front we put on, magic truly happens.

Lessons from my Travels

I love travelling with my family. Each journey is a new experience, no two trips are the same, even if we are going to a familiar destination and have taken that route time and time before.
What I find fascinating is how we prepare for our journey or holidays and the impact that has on events.

Take today for example a 3 hour road trip down the to the coast for a weekend away….

My son wakes really early and is super excited, revved and ready to go. His bags have been packed for 48 hours, not bad for a 6 year old, and he is ready to go despite the fact he isn’t showered, dressed or fed. Mister organised and mister impatient all rolled into one.

My partner is the more slow and steady type and would be the tortoise to my son’s hare (as the old fable by Aesop goes). Everything is methodical, done in sequence and cannot be rushed, despite the best efforts of Mr 6 year old asking repeatedly at regular 5 minute intervals ‘can we go yet, can we go yet’?

And all at once there is tension, as if there is getting ready to go tug of war occurring between the two of them.

And me? Well unfortunately for them, I am the Mrs last minute, hang on I’ll be ready in a second just gotta check my emails, reboot my computer, install this download, have a cup of tea, get dressed, have some breakfast pack my bag and I’ll be with you as soon as I can type.
Now that might seem disorganised but I do have it timed to perfection so there is no rushing and I’m always ready on time. I’ve got the art of travelling light down to a tee. But the fact that I appear so unprepared drives my partner and my boy up the wall. So it’s nag, nag, nag all the way, which I can tell you now is pretty annoying and very distracting.

I guess the lesson there for me is if I don’t want to be hassled by the come on we are going soon police is for me to be ready in advance and be the one waiting for them!

Ironically despite our differing approaches we all are ready and in the car on time. Sometimes we bicker or stress and there is tension in the getting ready and packing phase and sometimes it all falls into place with quite an alarming degree of harmony and synchronisity.

I notice the tension occurs when we allow the demands of others to unsettle us and the harmony when we remain true to what works best for us and give each other the respect and space to get on with it.

From our road trips and travels I realise that what causes the tension is the expectation we have that others should be doing things the same way as we do and in the same time frame. Yet when we accept that we all have our own way, style, rhythm, routine and our own individual process of getting things done it allows others the space and freedom to be who they are and prepare for their journey in their way and in their time.

If we applied this to life and to all the people we interacted with I’m sure there would be a lot less stress, conflict and disagreements and much more understanding and appreciation for each other. There is no right or wrong way, there is only your way, the way that works for you and you have every right to have that honoured and respected even if to others it may seem slightly odd or unusual.

Life’s Battles

“If you think you are beaten, you are. If you think you dare not, you don’t! If you want to win, but think you can’t, It’s almost a cinch you won’t. If you think you’ll lose, you’re lost; For out in the world, we find success begins with a fellow’s will; it’s all in the state of the mind. Life’s battles don’t always go to the stronger and faster man, but sooner or later, the man who wins is the man who thinks he can.” – Walter D. Wintle

Doing Something Well

I love watching someone do something well, especially when it is a talent that I don’t have or struggle with. We can’t all be brilliant or experts at everything.

Find your talents and hone them. Explore your weaknesses and surround yourself with people who have your weakness as as strength and allow them to support you in those areas.

We all have a part to play, we all have a gift to offer, we are all capable of doing something really well.

Don’t let comparison steal your joy.

Appreciate yourself for who you are, where you are at and what you can do.
Appreciate others for who they are, where they are at and what they can do.

And be inspired.

You Are Here for a Reason

Do you catch yourself wondering if there is more to life than this?
Do you ask yourself:
Why am I here?
What is my purpose?
What is it that I am here to do?

Surely there has to be more to life than just eat, sleep, work, have kids and then puff you’re gone…..

You were born for a reason.
You are here for a reason.
You are here for a grander purpose than just to eat, sleep, work, have kids and die.

But what is that purpose? What are you here for?

You are here to make a difference.
You are here to remember who you are.
You are here to shine your light.
You are here to leave an imprint in the World.
You are here to inspire others to know they have a purpose.

You were born unique, there is no one like you in this World who can offer what you have to give. You were blessed with a set of gifts that are yours and yours alone. You are here to share those gifts and use them to make a contribution to society. No matter how big or small.

There is no one like you in this world. You are unique, gifted, and special. Never underestimate you and the ripple effect that you have in people’s lives.

Your purpose is to learn who you are, what gifts you have and how best to bring those out into the World. You are here to be yourself, to love, to connect and let yourself shine.

You are here for a reason.
You are here to be YOU.
That is your purpose.