Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have – life itself.
Around 9 years ago I drove home one night and could not remember how I’d actually got there. Which is pretty scary stuff when you have gone through traffic lights, made turns across traffic and driven at high speed on the freeway (back then speed limits were for pansies). I pulled up outside my house and sat in my car wondering why if I had everything I had always wanted in my life why deep inside I was so miserable. Nothing was enough, the more I had the more I wanted and needed to fill the void within me.
As I sat in the car reviewing my life and a voice inside said “there has to be more to life than this, surely this isn’t it”. In that moment I felt my whole life come to a complete stop and knew that things needed to change. But what and how? My life was already on paper very successful and ticked all the boxes for what should essentially be a perfect life.
What I came to realise is that the changes needed to come from in me, I had so much unresolved emotional pain, blame, resentment and had a body that was highly strung, tight, tense and very stressed. I was regularly having heart palpitations and could not get through the day without huge amounts of coffee, starchy foods, cheese and a couple of beers to chill out before bed.
I was exhausted, I couldn’t keep living this way. So I dabbled with having acupuncture, massage, chiropractic, kinesiology and a type of NLP but nothing felt right or was able to offer any answers. All I got was short term relief but nothing that actually held or resolved anything.
It was at this time that I first attended a Universal Medicine workshop hosted by an ordinary guy by the name of Serge Benhayon.
What was presented during the day reawakened a part of me that I had not connected to since I was a small child and I simply knew this was the real deal and what I had been looking for, not because of what Serge presented but because of what and how I felt inside.
Today through the connection I re-established with myself and via the presentations and healing modalities of Universal Medicine I have made some profound changes to how I am and some simple changes to how I live and I can truly and honestly say that I am Loving Life…………
Last night my friends and family were violated by the press in the name of trying to get a media story where there is none to be had. We have been accused of being a cult and mindless brainwashed followers. Those of you who know me will know what a ludicrous statement that is. We are people wanting to live better lives, wanting to improve our health and relationships and to be more loving and caring members of the human race.
I for one will continue to live in the way I have chosen and will not be swayed from the choice I have openly and freely made from my heart as in the end love is the only way.
A dog barks when his master is attacked. I would be a coward if I saw that God’s truth is attacked and yet would remain silent.
Cyber-bullying: The Power of Anonymity
Definition of Cyber-Bully (Troll)
Cyber-bullying (Trolling) involves the use of information and communication technologies to support deliberate, repeated, and hostile behaviour by an individual or group, that is intended to harm others. Cyber-bullying can be as simple as continuing to send e-mail to someone who has said they want no further contact with the sender, but it may also include threats, sexual remarks, pejorative labels (i.e., hate speech), ganging up on victims by making them the subject of ridicule in forums, and posting false statements as fact aimed at humiliation.
The prospect of cyber-bullying is becoming an ingrained part of the Generation Y online experience. But it is not something confined to children and teenagers, anyone can be targeted — whether it be a high school student, public figure, online blogger, businesses, professionals or any member of a community or society. It can range from a snide comment on a Facebook page, private video footage released online without consent to hate speak, threats and defamation of character.
However if you research cyber-bullying online the majority of the information about its implications and affects is aimed at children and schools and does not address the wider scope of this heinous issue.
The internet allows people to hide behind a veil of anonymity or a false persona which appears to allow them the scope to publish unrefuted, false, misleading information and lies.
There are laws in place that supposedly control what can be published on the world wide web. For example, you can be convicted of ‘trolling’ in the UK — labelled under ‘offensive communications’ — and this can apply to anyone who can end up in court facing charges of internet slander and libel.
However the laws are not clear, the victim is left wondering where they turn to for help. Are we doing enough to limit the damage of cyber-bullying, and to educate people about it as well as how to cope and deal with it? There needs to be a larger effort made to help ensure no one, no matter their age, gender or race is made to be a victim of a cyber-bully or a cyber-stalker.
The consequences of online abuse can be severe. From knocking a teenager’s self-confidence to professional reputations being damaged, it can have terrible after-effects. It is difficult enough to bring a cyber-bully to justice but almost impossible when they hide behind fake names and pseudonyms. How do you legally challenge someone when you are unable to prove their identity? On the internet there is no true level of anonymity, unless you delve into systems and circumventors that most of the general public don’t pursue. But because the internet makes it so easy to create a fake profile online and disguise yourself — an exploit used by both children and adults alike, most people feel they are helpless to act.
Lets call cyber-bullying for what it is — it is cowardice! Bullying is bullying whether it is in person or on line. And bullying people behind the darkness of anonymity is the ultimate form of cowardice. I was raised along the lines of “if you have something to say about me you should have the decency to say it to my face and not behind my back”. There seems to be this complacent attitude that because it is going on in cyberspace that its not as significant, harmful or damaging, “After all, it’s only online. I’m not abusing that person to their face.”, when actually it is just as poisonous, vitriolic and perhaps more harming as it is out there for many people to see.
Social networking sites do attempt to regulate and keep the stem of abuse down, from groups and image captions to wall posts. But it’s not enough. Further legislation needs to be put in place to both protect individuals online, especially when it comes to defamation, and to make it clear that this type of behaviour is reprehensible and will not be tolerated.
When it comes to defamatory comments it is exceedingly challenging to have the posts and information removed, for example Blogger Content Policy http://support.google.com/blogger/bin/answer.py?hl=en&answer=76315 states: “Here are some examples of content we will not remove unless provided with a court order: Personal attacks or alleged defamation”. Allowing this type of policy fuels the power of the cyber-bully. Being able to remain anonymous makes them even more untouchable as how do you get a court order against a pseudonym? The policy makers need to see that this attitude is deeply flawed and it is time to take cyber-bullying seriously. If this behaviour were happening in a school or workplace it simply would not be tolerated, why should it be any different online?
Cyber-bullying and trolling is a growing problem in today’s “connected” world, and does not just happen inside our schools and among our youth. There is an entire new breed of bullies being born every day in the online world, and they are just as harmful as those in our schools as they cause just as much pain and suffering and are just as mean spirited.
The repercussions of cyber-bullying are far reaching and the time has come for us to say no to this, it isn’t right. The law needs to change to answer the call of the common man so as to protect the innocent and not the anonymous bully who think they have the power because no one knows who they are. But it is up to the common man to speak up and say this will no longer be tolerated before policy makers sit up and take notice. Just because it is not directly happening to you does not mean it is not happening and by saying nothing could it be that you are being complicit and condoning bullying on a world wide scale.
“We will have to repent in this generation not merely for the vitriolic words and actions of the bad people, but for the appalling silence of the good people.”
Martin Luther King, Jr.