The Most Important Person in the World

Consider this for a moment: Who is the most important person in your life?

Hmmm. Often when asked this, we say the people we love – our children, partner, friends or parents. I wonder how many of you said “I am”.

You are your world. And if this is so then it makes sense that you must be the most important person in your life.
However, we are not raised to put ourself first, to really love ourselves, to know we are special and worth caring for.

If you make yourself the most important person in YOUR life, then loving and truly caring for yourself becomes a high priority. Loving and appreciating yourself comes naturally. You become your number ONE and from there you are able to make the people you love the most important people in your life. Only when you truly love yourself can you love another.

For there to be more love, connection and care in our lives, we need to place our focus on developing a consistent practice of self-love and self-care.

If you don’t know where to start then here are some simple, practical tips you can use in your daily life.

1. Appreciate and Adore Yourself.

A great way to start practicing self-love and care is through appreciating who you are, what you do and your own unique qualities. Instead of criticising yourself focus on the things you like about yourself and constantly remind your self how special you are. Focus on the things that make you feel good or bring a smile to your face when you think about yourself.
Be gentle with yourself, practice kind thoughts and don’t be so hard on yourself.
Practice looking into your own eyes in the mirror and adoring who you are as if you were looking at a baby or a sleeping child.
Remember you are perfect just the way you are, you are beautiful inside and out, you are worthy of of love and that you love yourself.

2. Nourish your body, not just your taste buds

Instead of eating food that just tastes good, try finding the right foods that make your body feel exceptional. A great way to do this is to check in with yourself during and after you eat, see how what you are eating is making you feel. Is your energy high or low? Is your stomach feeling good or a bit off? Has your mood changed? Do you feel revved up or sluggish?

A great place to start is to cut down on your sugar, wheat, or dairy intake. These things tend to do more for our taste buds and less for our body and over all wellbeing. They also tend to alter how we feel, our moods and energy levels.

3. Exercise your body in ways that feel good

Find a form of exercise or movement that actually makes you feel good both during and after and you have fun doing. Often times we think of exercise as a chore or something we don’t enjoy but we do it because it benefits our health. We perceive exercise as flogging ourselves at the gym or pounding the pavement until we are totally out of breath and exhausted. But it doesn’t have to be that way – gently exercising and moving the body is all that is required. Try walking, swimming and light weight training.

A big part of self-love and self- care is looking after the physical body. Exercise gently and when your body says it has had enough, listen, honour and respect it – don’t push on stop your workout knowing you have done enough. Your body will thank you for it and love you back in return.

4. Pamper and nurture yourself

A true sign of self-love is treating yourself as if you would treat a loved one in your life. We often put ourselves out for others and forget about our own needs and desires. Give yourself time to pamper and provide ultimate self-care for yourself.
You don’t need to get a massage or spend the day at the spa. You can nurture yourself with a hot bath or long shower, by applying moisturiser or giving yourself a foot rub or self massage.
By all means go for a massage or a facial. But don’t forget to pamper yourself everyday.
Develop a consistent practice of giving yourself what you require to make you feel you are worth caring for.

5. Go on a date with yourself

Yes I know it seems odd, what do you mean go on a date with myself? This may seem uncomfortable because we’re not used to spending quality time with ourselves nearly as much as we are with others. Find something that you really want to do but have been putting off because you haven’t found someone to join you. Go out to a nice restaurant, watch your favourite movie, go to the theatre, go dancing, or get out into nature, have a walk along the beach. Make yourself breakfast in bed. Get creative, the options are endless.

6. Hug

Hug yourself. Try giving yourself a hug by wrapping your arms around yourself. Hold yourself gently, be delicate and tender with yourself.
Or just simply place two hands on your heart and take gentle breaths in and out through your nose. This helps you connect to who you are and lets the love start to flow again.
If you need a hug don’t be shy to ask for one.

7. Write yourself a love letter

Close your eyes and picture yourself as a child. What would you say to that innocent, beautiful girl or boy. What would you tell them about how great they are, how beautiful they are, how much potential and love they have inside. How they can do and be anything they want. You are that child.
From here, write yourself a letter expressing how much you love ALL aspects of yourself, how amazing you are. Let yourself go deeper and grander with every sentence that you write. Don’t hold back for you are incredible.

8. Stop beating yourself up

We cannot begin to truly love ourselves until we release any grudges or burdens we are holding onto. In order to be kinder to ourselves we need to release and dissolve the habit of being hard on ourselves. Be aware of when you do this, what negative self talk you have and reframe your thoughts. The more you practice this the more you will begin to feel at ease with who you are. We are not perfect, we make mistakes but don’t bash yourself for them as after all we are here to learn.

Practice being self-caring and self-loving everyday in all that you do. Soon it becomes more natural and consistent and the more you love yourself the more space there is for love!

Love is boundless and infinite, don’t be afraid of love because love can only ever love you back.

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Author: Dr Rachel Hall

The Holistic Dentist who Loves Humanity. Life is about people, connection, love and equality. People are suffering and have forgotten they are naturally amazing. By living in a way that is more self-loving, gentle and truthful we can reawaken our capacity for grandness.

12 thoughts on “The Most Important Person in the World”

  1. When you stop and consider the only person we can ever count on 100% in our lives, the one who will always be with us through thick and thin and is our best friend for life – is ourself – not anyone else – it certainly pays to cultivate and give true attention to that special bond. I love how you have outlined some of the ways of treating and being with ourselves, Rachel.

    1. Imagine how life would be if from when we were a child we were encourage to foster a deep loving relationship with ourselves. If we learnt to treat ourselves as a number one priority, whereby we lived in a way that acknowledged our delicateness, tenderness and preciousness. We would never be self abusive, rough or aggressive and I feel the world would be a much more harmonious place. But what I have seen is it is never too late to start living this way. All that needs to happen is to make the choice to love who you are.

  2. I grew up in the 50’s & 60’s and we were always taught to put ourselves last. Everyone came before self. Do do otherwise was considered self-ish and self-centred (which was not a good thing.) So I reckon I’ll be forgiven for not getting it figured out until I was in my 50’s & 60’s!! And I am still learning how to do it. What does it really mean to nurture myself? At the moment it means something different everyday as I experiment. Yesterday it was laying in bed, talking on the phone with a friend from overseas, under the yummy warm covers on a cool autumn morning. Today, it means making my favourite granola and filling the house with warm smells of vanilla and cinnamon. And reading YOUR blog. Thank you Rachel for being such an inspirational person.

    1. Thank you Gayle for your loving words and for exposing that we are not taught what it is to nurture ourselves, yet we can learn to do it and we are never too old to give it a go.

  3. I like the self love guideline! It would be nice to place it onto our mirror we look into each day, to be reminded that we are responsible for our love. We can stop looking for Love outside of us, because Love is already inside of us ourselves, and as more we nurture ourselves the more Love can be with us as our foundation of LOVE.

    1. By being more self-loving I have noticed that the way I am with myself allows others to start making little changes in their lives to also have more care for who they are. It is like we become the list that gets put up on the mirror, that they way we are, the way we do things is a reflection that we can be gentle and caring for after all that is who we naturally are.

  4. It’s very timely, Rachel (as usual). Just today I felt a bit lonely, needy and asked me self- Why? My answer was-investing in people instead of myself. Thank you for this divine reminder.

    1. Oh my goodness Elena if I had invested half as much effort in looking after me as I had in trying to please other people or get a pat on the back for my hard work and effort I wouldn’t have wasted years being self-abusive and reckless. It is by these timely reminders that we get to stop, checkin and reassess where we are at. We are never alone, just disconnected and by bringing it back to self- care and self- love we get to feel delicious and full of ourselves.

  5. As a man learning to undo and remove all the many societal ‘ must do’s ‘ putting self first always used to be about numbing and obliteration , so as to forget and not deal with responsibility in this pressured sense. What I am choosing for myself is that true honouring, that I am numero uno, the most important being in my life. This has taken some time and without perfection there are days when it does not feel like that, every moment is a fresh moment to observe and feel how I am treating myself. Dr Rachel thank you for writing these wonderful words, they serve as a gentle reminder that I have a responsibility to everyone and that comes through my own personal responsibility to love me first.

    1. Thank you for sharing with so much honesty Lee the mans perspective on this topic. Women put themselves last and loose themselves in the doing things for everyone else. And from your words I see that men loose themselves in the having to provide for and protect their families. We are also told it is selfish to put yourself first. But if we are not being who we are is that not the most selfish act as no one ever gets to share the true you and the incredible love, strength and gentleness that is there.

      1. The idea that it’s selfish to self love is quite a common perception. I agree that when we hold ourselves back from being the incredible loving beings we naturally are, that is the ultimate act of selfishness as it leaves us all less. Thank you Rachel for what you have expressed here.

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